Thursday, August 09, 2007

Always Leave Them Wanting More

Yes, I know I'm bad. I went ahead and watched "Doomsday" of Dr. Who instead of proceeding chronologically.
That fucking wrecked me. I was a blubbering mess. Tip to self: do not stay up late watching shows that will make you cry because the next day at work will be miserable.
But isn't that they way of the world in micro? We spend all this time denying, denying, denying and chasing after something. If we get it, we don't want it anymore. Classic case: Cheers. Once Sam got Diane, viewers stopped watching. No one watches "happy ever after". No, we're sick morons who like watching people who belong together being kept apart. That, and come on - how many real world relationships wind up being that saccharine HEA bullshit, with choirs of angels singing every time they boink? *listens to the crickets chirping* Yeah, that's what I thought. It's pain and suffering and getting left out in the cold.
Buffy and Angel. Check.
Angel and Cordelia (well, I wasn't much into that idea, but ... ) Check
And others I'm sure...
All of which is why I'm starting to think more and more that I should never bother dating again. Frankly, I don't want to deal with the lies and the bullshit and the bad sex or the not having sex because someone is living at home with their mom and their five year old kid might catch us doing stuff that will cause them to go through even more therapy. But that's another story. I don't want to feel like I've got an empty pit in my heart when someone calls it off.
I'm fucking sane and happy on my own and it took me quite a while to get there. No muss, no fuss. I know way too many married couples my own age who *aren't* happy together and who tell me DON'T get married. Wow, that's great PR for the married state.
Right now, I can only think of two good marriages of my own age group.


Tickersoid said...

I recommend getting married late in life. After about 45 the testosterone calms down and guys can, at last, think straight. By then you'll have some idea what you want and so will he.

Kids are over rated. No sooner do you get rid of them when they start having your grand kids and want you to babysit. Later they can't wait for you to die for the inheritance.

Girls marry guys, wrongly thinking they can change him.
Guys marry girls, wrongly thinking they won't change.

Nicholas said...

Don't get married until you are good and ready - and even then you'll have a good chance of getting it wrong, and will have to try again. Meanwhile, don't agonize! Just enjoy being free and single; enjoy your friends, enjoy people who support you, enjoy anyone with whom you may care to dally. And anyone who doesn't understand you, it's their problem, not yours (translation: piss on them!).